I used to have a blog called 'Only a Husband'. It was for all of those little things C does that are not fuss-worthy, but certainly not the way I would do them. After only 3 or so posts in a year, I took it down.
Anyway, I had one of those moments today. After losing Morgan, I immediately started my research to learn more about what incompetent cervix was, and what could be done about it. I found out about a procedure called a trans-abdominal cerclage, which is when the surgeon places a loop of suture at the junction of the uterus and cervix. The procedure is similar in many ways to a C-section, without actually cutting the uterus. As the stitch is meant to be permanent, it requires a C-section delivery. I told C about this, and we both felt it was pretty extreme, though I could see the allure in such a procedure. Fast forward to last night, when I decided to send an email to one of the few doctors in the country who does this surgery on a regular basis. Just to see what he had to say. At first, C seemed upset that I'd sent the email. But, oh boy! This morning, when I forwarded Dr. Haney's response, his tune certainly changed! Now, after reading the doctor's repeat of the things I'd already said, he's almost 100% on board with us flying to Chicago for this surgery. Now, I don't have MD behind my name, but folks do call me Dr. I understand where he's coming from and that he's worried about me in surgery, but c'mon! Give me a little credit in deciphering the situation!
I know his heart is the right place, and his hesitance comes from concern. This is just one of those 'Only a Husband' moments.